Being well developed in the areas of knowledge and application means the coach knows what to do and how to do it, but that does not guarantee effectiveness. Many experts may still struggle to coach, especially if they lack the ability to create and maintain meaningful relationships with their athletes. Ultimately, great coaches create great relationships and positive training environments that allow their athletes to thrive. RELATIONSHIP BUILDING is a key area of coaching and can be one of the more elusive skills a coach must develop; however, underestimating this skill’s importance will stifle a coach’s success. Relationship skills enable the coach to manage people and handle the problems that can occur in a dynamic setting like a CrossFit gym.
Coaches who are great at developing relationships tend to have highly developed emotional intelligence and self-awareness. Their communication skills are excellent, and they operate with a high degree of empathy and connection. These coaches are typically surrounded by strong communities and have gyms with positive culture, and this is no accident. Both have been purposely created and nurtured by the coach.
How do you develop this skill? Many resources are available, including courses, books, and programs, but the starting point is to be aware that relationship building is an active process that requires the coach to look for opportunities to connect with athletes. Paying attention to how you interact with people and noticing how others react to you is a key part of the developmental process. Relationship building requires you to see the athlete as a whole person and respect the role training plays in the broader canvas of their life.
Identify a great coach and watch carefully as they interact with their athletes. Imagine nothing is an accident and try to imitate or incorporate what they do into your toolkit. Copying great role models is an effective way to develop relationship skills, especially at the beginning.
In the coaching journey, this is perhaps the area that is most self-directed, and it requires the coach to take an honest look in the mirror and to seek feedback from other coaches or mentors wherever possible. Do people enjoy being around you? Do you seek to understand what your athletes are thinking and feeling? Do you consider the needs of others? Do you understand the context for other people’s behavior? Why do some athletes respond to your coaching cues but others ignore you? Do you understand what is happening in your athletes’ lives outside the gym? This may be an area where you need to seek out a trusted adviser and get honest feedback on where your relationship strengths and weaknesses lie. This can be ego-challenging work, but it is important and pays dividends.
A great coach uses relationship skills very deliberately to connect with people in a meaningful and enduring way. The best coaches are able to read subtle differences in personality, motivation, and emotions to fine-tune the training experience and customize it to the individual.
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One of my favourite articles of all time. Thank you Matt!
This article is a part of required reading for all of my new coaches. I was just looking at it because I had a situation with a new coach I wanted him to refer to "relationship building" part of this article. So I just finished reading it again and then opened my email and found it coming from CrossFit to my inbox again. Love all the signs that this article will live forever!
Thank you. Excellent set of tips for us new to the arena!
Totally agree that being a great coach goes far beyond technical skills.
Listening, patience, and adapting to each individual are key qualities we also strive to apply in our online coaching approach. In France, coaching plays a major role in helping people improve their physique : https://coachmusculationenligne.com
Awesome! Thanks for this, very inspiring!
Articolo bellissimo, ti ricorda, nel caso ce ne fosse bisogno, perché hai iniziato.
Questo articolo fa un lavoro eccezionale nell'illustrare la complessità e la profondità del coaching di alto livello. Spesso, si tende a considerare il coaching come un'abilità basata esclusivamente sulle competenze tecniche, come l'insegnamento del movimento o la correzione degli errori. Tuttavia, l'articolo va oltre, esplorando come il vero valore di un grande allenatore risieda nella sinergia tra molteplici abilità e attributi che si uniscono per creare un'esperienza di coaching che può sembrare quasi magica.
L'autore mette in luce come il coaching efficace non sia solo una questione di conoscenze tecniche, ma anche di capacità di ispirare, motivare e comprendere profondamente i bisogni e i potenziali degli atleti. Questo approccio integrato è ciò che distingue un allenatore straordinario da uno semplicemente competente.
In sintesi, l'articolo non solo celebra l'importanza del coaching ma invita anche a riconoscere il duro lavoro.
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Thanks for the article
I gonna read it every week to seek out improvements in my coaching skills and as a human
I love to regularly read this article since it has been released. It’s a great resource that holds you to the basic core principles of the methodology and gives you the practical applications of it in order to coach effectively and making people better at 360 degrees. This is pure gold for CrossFit Trainers! Thanks for sharing Matt!!
I have it bookmarked for the same reason and regularly share it in our coaches group for reflection!
Obrigada pelo artigo. Crossfit é incrível
Thanks for the article. Crossfit is amazing
A great theoretical write-up, lately cf classes just feels like a bunch of people who want to come in and move around and socialize. I use to be so into researching and preparing for classes but I've been struggling so sooo hard with staying positive in classes. I was even thinking for a while of going for my L3 but it seems like no one cares to learn or get better or even complete the warm up. I don't know if it's my pride or what but I'm losing my passion rapidly when the majority of group fitness athletes coming in don't seem to care much.
I hear you, Jamie. I started CrossFit in 2017 (in my 50s)! It has changed my life. I am getting my L1 this June. Scared. I don't know anything about coaching. Doing a WOD and helping others DO a WOD - not the same thing. But I also see what you mean ... CrossFit is not just a trend or a way for someone to lose weight. Nutrition is so so important and the key that unlocks the rest of the CrossFit methodology. Thanks for being vulnerable.
I hear you, Jamie. I started CrossFit in 2017 (in my 50s)! It has changed my life. I am getting my L1 this June. Scared. I don't know anything about coaching. Doing a WOD and helping others DO a WOD - not the same thing. But I also see what you mean ... CrossFit is not just a trend or a way for someone to lose weight. Nutrition is so so important and the key that unlocks the rest of the CrossFit methodology. Thanks for being vulnerable.
Nice call to action.
I would love to see these offerings with a PDF link, if possible. I'd love to add them to my study binder!
If you mean transform this page into a PDF, just hit print and choose PDF as the printer output and voilà, you have it 💪!
Great insight on what the best coaches of our community do. Always remember you can improve. There is no magic in the process, just hard work at refining our craft witch creates magic in the results of your clients.
Thank you for the great article . Crossfit is awesome sport.
Thank you for this great article!
This is amazing! Thanks a lot.
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Brilliant article, thanks Matt!
Inspiring! Let the journey begin.
Thanks for sharing this great article !
Could you recommend books/articles about relationship building ?
Hi Sebastien,
There are MANY! Here are 4 that have had a big impact on me ...
Enjoy!
Cheers,
Matt
InsideOut Coaching by Joe Ehrmann is an excellent resource, and embracing and practicing the teachings of Jesus will allow you to be transformative in your interactions with others. (ie. "go the extra mile", "esteem others more highly than yourself", "forgive seventy times seven times", "love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength, and love your neighbor as yourself")
InsideOut Coaching by Joe Ehrmann is an excellent resource, and embracing and practicing the teachings of Jesus will allow you to be transformative in your interactions with others. (ie. "go the extra mile", "esteem others more highly than yourself", "forgive seventy times seven times", "love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength, and love your neighbor as yourself")
Appreciations for activating key coaching elements. I am revalidating my credentials after a few years away from coaching. This article jacks me up!
Thank you so much for this, loved it 😍
Thank you! Really makes a difference to my development as a new coach when I read such articles. Love it! :)
"Identify a great coach and watch carefully as they interact with their athletes. Imagine nothing is an accident and try to imitate or incorporate what they do into your toolkit."
^^This, for sure. And it's also important for athletes to do this also - whether that's for CrossFit movements or sports in general. Recently we've been putting a lot of emphasis on less of me talking and, "Hey guys, watch Dillon... okay, spend 30 seconds trying to mimic that."
This article is a masterpiece!
Was a great piece of reading, I remembered my L1, L2 and all the group classes and coaching experiences that I have had through the years. Thanks!!!
Yes! This article is right on point! Really enjoyed it.
Blown away by this article! So much to pull from this! Thank you for writing this for us.
Wow! The breadth and depth of this article has certainly provided an amazing stimulus for continual learning!
Thanks, Matt Swift for an inspiring piece!
Thank you!! Just it, so fantastic!
Thank you! Just it.
It is a kind of exceptional article that you immediately would love to put into your favorite document for repetitive reading every once in a while.
This article should NOT be open access, is full of amazing concepts and as always explained in a perfect way. We should pay to read this and who disagree is not worth what's written on it.
This model really puts things in the proper perspective. Love this return to instructor education.
Exceptional article, thank you!
Very timely for me as a new coach. Thank you
Great article! Thank you for sharing.
I love what you guys are doing! This article was excellent.
Very excited to see the announcement of the new Professional Coach publication. What a great article to kick things off. Great job Matt!
One of the best articles I have ever read on coaching. Well done Matt!
Fantastic Article! Thanks for taking the time to share.
Yeeeeees, this is it!